You’re about to give up and go home when you see her. At first, you only notice a bright purple head coming in your general direction, then, as if by divine intervention, the path clears, and you see her in all her glory.

By the time Fumnaya gets to you, you have been waiting for 4 hours. Only a minute ago you were fuming, anger threatening to topple you, now, with Naya in front of you, all your anger disappears. You can only think of how beautiful she is, how her eyes sparkle. You barely hear her apology and excuse…

Tips and Tricks to Keep You Motivated from Start to Finish

Let’s play a game. I need you to put both hands up for this. Put a finger down if you’ve ever found an online course, fell in love with it immediately, started doing it, couldn’t shut up about how great it was, then stopped half-way through and never looked back. Yeah, me too.

I finished six online courses this year — one of them took 3+ months. Therefore, I am practically an expert at finishing these things. So, I thought to share the tips and tricks I used to get myself to keep going back till I earned my certificates.

1. Be Super Interested in What you’re Learning

He’s Out to Get Our Human Rights

Trans flag on a white background with “My feminism is for trans people too” written on it
Trans flag on a white background with “My feminism is for trans people too” written on it

To quote J.Cole, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking. This past week I’ve been thinking a lot about othering, the othering ­ — and sometimes total erasure — of gender minorities in spaces where they should feel welcome and accepted. As I write this, I do not claim to be knowledgeable or objective, I write from my heart, from where it itches. You could say I’m thinking out loud.

Since JKR came out and boldly endorsed transphobia, thus ruining one more aspect of my childhood, it’s been like someone opened the floodgates and let the TERFs out. I have…

Yes, Even you Mr. Cishet Male

Yesterday a story broke on Twitter about a young man who was assaulted by the Nigerian police because he was “perceived” as gay. I have been unable to bring myself to feel sorry him.

Since the Same Sex Marriage (Prohibition) Act (SSMPA) passed, effectively legalising homophobia in Nigeria, gay people have been hunted, extorted, assaulted, killed, and laughed at. Laughed at when we talk about sexual assault, police brutality, lynchings, losing jobs, or being kicked out. Laughed at because “it’s not their problem”. Niyi Osundare’s Not My Business comes to mind.

The poster’s comment section is filled with sympathies and…

This is your Princess speaking. As the Permanent Secretary, it is my duty to give you a breakdown of our past week and the agenda for the new week; a duty which I hold dear.

This week, we have put our tech team to the test. Using our state-of-the-art satellite tracking system, we have been able to invade the enemy camp. News reaching me is that our team of elite hackers were able to hack into the enemy’s devices and make public never-before-seen media to frame the enemy and tarnish his pristine image. …

Or Feminism Made Me Gay: True Story

For Pride this year I had three goals:

  1. Get laid
  2. Get hitched
  3. Come out to my family

I’ve achieved goals 2 and 3, as for goal 1, well anything can happen in a few hours.

While I would love to gush about how perfect my girlfriends are, this story is not about that. This story is about laying out all my cards in front of my family and what I got in return.

On Wednesday, 3rd June 2020, I decided to come out to my sisters; well the original plan was to come out to one of them. After careful…

I Will no Longer Put Race First

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When black women talk about sexism, misogyny(noir), we’re told we need to put our race first, we are black before anything else. But are we really?

This morning I woke up to the news of Oluwatoyin Salau’s death and I was once again reminded that even among black people, there is no safety in my blackness. So no, I am not black before I am a woman. Toyin was a 19-year-old activist who was present at every protest she could be at, she was vocal about protecting the lives of black people, and black men failed her.

Black women are…

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Abike went to her sister
She said, aunty mi
There is something you should know
When a maiden comes of age
She gives herself to a suitor
She loves him
And gives him healthy sons
She makes his meals
And takes care of him

Aunty mi,
I have come of age
I have found a suitor to give myself to
But he does not hunt
He does not sit with the men
Drinking palm wine at dusk
He cannot give me seed to grow babies
Aunty mi,
My preferred suitor is a woman

Ashake looked at her
From head to toe and up again
What you have described is unnatural
It is ungodly
You have given yourself over to evil spirits
You must resist
I’ll pray for you

How to be the Ally the LGBTQ+ Community Needs

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Allyship is great, every community needs to know that there are people on the outside who care about them and stand with them. Being an ally is about the noblest thing you can do, but there are so many ways to get it wrong. So, I’m offering a crash course; just how do you be the Ally the queer community needs?

Don’t Speak Over Us

We need you to amplify our voices not place yours first. A huge part of being an ally is listening to us and spreading our message. When you speak over us, you’re not helping us you’re shutting us up…

Realising my Attraction to my Gender Wasn’t a Childhood Phase

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I had loved her in some way for more than a year, almost two. She was everything to me.

We were in her bed during a sleepover, trying to exhaust all the topics before we fell asleep. She suggested that we play 20 questions. I hate the game, but it posed an opportunity I may not have gotten again, so I said yes. A few questions in, I started to chicken out, but my mama didn’t raise no chicken.

“Have you ever kissed a girl before?” At the time I had kissed a handful of girls; all before my teenage…

Emma Nwosisi

Student of law, writer.

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